Monday, November 11, 2013

Saying Goodbye, But Savoring the Memories

Anna GooleyAutumn Leaves, the 18th Annual Glens Falls Chronicle Book Fair, was held at the Queensbury Hotel on Sunday, November 3. Attendance appeared to be excellent, providing evidence that the regional book scene is thriving despite all the changes in publishing in recent years. At the fair, I was afforded the opportunity to visit with a variety of writers, some of whom plan to cover stories of local history. Included in the exchange of ideas were the hows and whys of research, particularly the use of personal interviews, a subject that was fresh on my mind because of recent events.

I should mention that I neglected to reply to comments on my last story, which covered updates on e-books and printed books. I wanted to, but let’s just say it was not a good week. Although I was appearing last weekend on a nationally televised show in relation to one of my books, it was soon relegated to unimportance.

My mom had been hospitalized for two weeks, and she died in the early minutes of November 2—at the very same hour the show was running on Discovery ID. A few days later, her funeral was held—on my birthday. Those were just unfortunate coincidences, and they matter little. Death has a way of putting TV shows and birthdays in perspective.

Mom was a fan of my work, especially early on when the first few books sold well. She enjoyed selling books to local friends who stopped by to pick up copies, so I kept a small supply at her house solely for that purpose. It did seem to bring her lots of pleasure.

For most of the past 13 years, my wife Jill and I visited my parents weekly. There were calls for help with the sump pump, car repairs, doctor appointments, and other things, but the weekly visits were separate, focusing on card games, playing pool, and having fun for three or four hours.

Besides the constant joking around that we engaged in, the conversation often delved into family and regional history. My parents’ generation was always big on secrets: don’t talk about divorce, wild times, or family matters around the children. A lot of that secrecy was still happening when the children, including me, were adults with our own families.

So on those weekly visits, I tossed the old rules aside and began probing for information that was previously considered taboo. I learned a lot from Mom about family, and local history as well.

I began planning my questions in advance, much like I’ve prepared for interviews during book research. It was fun, even more so when Mom became annoyed to the point where she’d say, “Oh, Larry, you’re such a pest!” Some of the stories involved personal accounts of Prohibition, when hundreds of local folks, including many of my relatives, were involved in handling bootleg whiskey. Despite her warnings not to, I’ll be including some of that information in a future book.

When Mom passed, she was 92. Prior to hospitalization, she was still sharp enough to recall events from her childhood. Our family was fortunate to have her for so long, and for a guy like me who loves researching the past, she was a goldmine of information.

So here’s my chance to offer some sound advice. If you have elderly relatives, friends, or community members that you’ve thought about interviewing, do it. Chances are, they’ll enjoy it, and so will you. If you put it off, you’ll someday express regrets when the option is gone.

Make a plan. Take a notebook and list questions, leaving room to pencil in some comments, even if you’re recording each session. Whether or not you ever publish what you learn, it will likely become a prized possession for the remainder of your life.

It will also help avoid painful regrets for not asking questions that might forever remain unanswered. That’s one regret I don’t have with my mom—thanks to all the pestering.

 

Lawrence P. Gooley

Lawrence P. Gooley

Lawrence Gooley, of Clinton County, is an award-winning author who has hiked, bushwhacked, climbed, bicycled, explored, and canoed in the Adirondack Mountains for 40 years. With a lifetime love of research, writing, and history, he has authored 16 books and more than 100 articles on the region's past, and in 2009 organized the North Country Authors in the Plattsburgh area.

His book Oliver’s War: An Adirondack Rebel Battles the Rockefeller Fortune won the Adirondack Literary Award for Best Book of Nonfiction in 2008. Another title, Terror in the Adirondacks: The True Story of Serial Killer Robert F. Garrow, has been a regional best-seller for four years running.

With his partner, Jill Jones, Gooley founded Bloated Toe Enterprises in 2004. They have published 47 titles and are now offering web design.

Bloated Toe’s unusual business model was featured in Publisher’s Weekly in April 2011. The company also operates an online store to support the work of other regional folks. The North Country Store features more than 100 book titles and 60 CDs and DVDs, along with a variety of other area products.


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3 Responses

  1. Bob Meyer says:

    Lawrence,
    I have enjoyed your posts many times.
    My condolences to you and your family.
    May your mom’s memory be a blessing.

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  2. Ellen Rathbone Ellen says:

    Condolences, Larry! I know this day is only a few years away for me, too. The hard thing is that I live states away from my folks now…and even planning a two day trip to visit is a chore – nowhere near as easy as when I lived in Newcomb, only three hours away. I sure regret not having all those questions (when I was a kid) to ask my grandparents. Hindsight is great. I’m glad you were able to get some good fist hand history before it was too late.

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